Greetings, 
 Is it not interesting to know that a grateful heart is a bi-product of love; or perhaps vice versa. Whichever the case, the analogy holds true. When one is full of strife and care, he being in error, exposes his brothers flaws. But he that is grateful at heart does not seek to bring shame, but rather the purpose of GOD.

 As I begin to preach less and teach more, I have discovered the benefit of the two.  Preaching throws all the cards on the table and teaching picks them up again; putting one back in the game. Let us consider why we at times willfully bring shame to our brethren. Here are a few probable factors. 

1. Retaliation.  One electing to retaliate from a determined anger is motivated by fear. When one senses the possibility of threat and chooses to strike in defense, it out of an innate response of self-preservation.  This defense may be of oneself or anything or person which he/she wishes to protect.

 The role of safeguarding (as governance) has a biased sense of duty, often demonstrating a minute regard for those they deem opponents. The problem being that if the threat is an imagined, the reprimand can be perceived as unwarranted and even cruel; particularly if not anticipated.

      2.  Judgmental.  Those having this attitude have not come to terms with themselves.  The         veracity of Scripture calls for the self-examination self. And while it is impossible to discern without using judgment; it was never intended as a means to condemn.

We all have flaws. Some inbreed, though many are developed over time. So then where is the pointing of the finger? Those who amplify the flaws of others reveal subconscious frailties; and trigger a whole volume of strife.

      3.  Oblivious. This is a characteristic of one who wishes to make his point regardless of the consequences to himself or any affected.  Such lacks tact and possibly agape. This behavior can be the result a poor self-image, an idealistic copycat demeanor, or just plain ignorance. Whichever the case, hopefully he will amend his ways before he finds himself all by himself.

       4.  And more. Evil communications can stem from many causes, many of which have deep rooted foundations. When we embrace resentment, we serve as corrupt vessels.  Which will eventually encompass our entire being; demeaning our appeal.  Corruption within obstructs the flow of the Spirit  in our lives. Henceforth we become a wide spread detriment to all unfortunate enough to encounter us.

 In conclusion, the primary reason for fault finding lays in the absence of the agape (I Cor. 13). After we have received forgiveness through Christ; we must make Him our central point and not flesh and blood. Herein lies wisdom, mark the deception; "Satan is the adversary”. Any other object is off target.   

 To remedy this mindset, we being in Christ most seek after things above, which are wrought in eternity.  This we do by dying to self, studying Scripture, attending worship, praying and developing healthy Christian relationships.

 Moreover, our mission is to disciple, and not condemn.  Condemnation is a seed planted; that when it is cultivated cripples and averts the Christian walk. And yet on a day to day basis we are all challenged by those whose mannerisms oppose us on every hand. So remember to think before you speak.  Why rehearse a song that you don't wish to be sung.

 Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins (Pro 10:12 KJV). One who is grateful internally will be thankful externally!